Foreword

Despite growing up in a very sheltered religious household, I was always very curious about sex. I found it fascinating, not only because it was so taboo, but also because it's a driving force of most living beings on the planet- none of us would be here if it weren't for sex. Sex is a necessity for our species. That being said, there's no reason we can't enjoy the ride (no pun intended.) As a child I'd sneak to watch shows like Dr. Ruth, Talk Sex with Sue, and even MTV's Undressed. I learned the fundamentals, like foreplay and protection, orgasm and consent. I'd subtly thumb through Cosmo at the grocery store (I just had to find out, what can you do with a donut that will blow his mind?), I'd drag my friends in to Spencer's naughty department at the back of the store. I made sure to never miss an episode of MTV's Sex 2K. Even though I wasn't even sexually active, I wanted answers. I changed my short lived AOL messenger away message to "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but whips and chains excite me." Through college friends would call me up frantically to ask me advice- didn't pull out in time? Sounds like your girlfriend needs a Coca Cola douche. (don't do that though, seriously)

Many years later, even after reading instruction manual, watching documentaries (Frisky Business was a great series!), perusing toy sights, and frequenting health forums, I still found myself learning. It was then I came to the conclusion that if someone like myself, who has spent most of her life being a nosy horndog, still has so very much she doesn't know, how many women my age (or older) are in the dark when it comes to things like Kegels, or real bondage and S&M that isn't found within the pages of 50 Shades of Grey?

Credit: Evelina Pentcheva Photography

Although I regretfully did not get a degree in Human Sexuality, I still feel it is one of my passions and a topic of which I am all too familiar. My goal with this blog is to liberate women and men, young and old, to embrace their bodies and libidos, while giving useful and sound sex advice (no Coke this time, I promise!!) I will frequently post links to articles I find interesting.

What this is:
An information source. I will frequently post links to online articles and give my own commentary and analysis. 
A guide to techniques, toys and movies. Think of it as a more user friendly version of Priscilla's/Cirilla's/Adam&Eve. No shame, no judgment, no confusion.
A collection of fun tidbits of history. I love history and learning about other cultures, especially when it comes to their ideas on sex. I will share that here. 
The basics of sexual health. "Am I normal?" is a thought that crosses most individuals' minds from time to time. Is my fetish normal? Can I still be a heterosexual man if I like prostate stimulation? Does my vulva look right? (9 times out of 10 it actually is; yes, absolutely!; I'm sure your vulva is perfect, beautiful, and unique to you.) 
A Place to Learn about Consent, Safe Words, and Power Balance within an SMBD context. So many adults out there really want to get in to SMBD sexuality, but are maybe uneasy, or unsure how to ask their partner. For many individuals bondage and sadomasochism can be very rewarding, helping them feel sexually fulfilled, bonded stronger to their partner(s), and even more confident in their life outside of the bedroom. Unfortunately, many individuals misunderstand what consent SMBD actually is thanks to the wildly popular book 50 Shades of Grey. Spoiler Alert: blindfolds are still relatively vanilla.


What this is not:
This is not a porn blog. Though I plan to give movie reviews in the future, I will not embed any pornographic videos. I will provide links, but because everyone has their own levels of comfort, I will blur any photos containing nudity. I want to reach out to as many people as possible, be it a naive house wife, or a liberated and seasoned sex worker looking to expand her knowledge. On that note...
I will not post explicit photos of myself. This blog isn't about me. I will not post about my personal life, my partner, my own sex life, or even my sexual orientation.